With International Women’s Day having just passed, it seemed fitting to write this post…finally. Slightly late to the party, but let’s be realistic, when am I not with these things.
I recently wrote a post all about the importance of girls supporting girls – touching upon the fact I’ve wanted to incorporate a feminist feature into my blog for a while now. However, I’m no expert on the topic so I’ve
sort of been putting off getting it started. But with IWD happening this week, it gave me the kick up the butt that I much needed.
So, I’m what I guess you could call a very amateur feminist. By very I mean, that this time last year I would have probably laughed in your face if you had told me that a year down the line I’d be a feminist, fighting for equality. I’d been avoiding being remotely associated with the word pretty much all my life, primarily due to spending my life surrounded by boys. God forbid I refer to myself as a feminist, such notion was and unfortunately probably still is laughable in the eyes of my brother.
Feminism was something that I hadn’t given a second thought to, that was until I started to educate myself on the actual meaning and values of the movement. I say actual, because the values that had been driven into me, were that feminism wasn’t a move for equality. It was a way of women overtaking with the intent of taking down the opposite sex. Plot twist, it isn’t. I thought this way for far too long (I know, in hindsight, I’m
probably the worst feminist to ever walk the earth). That was until I realised that the feminist movement wasn’t about women wanting to work their way to the top, with the sole goal of tearing men down. That it was in fact, a movement in which women wanted to work their way to the top, and stand with men. There is space for us all up there. So, I guess you could say that’s my ‘very brief, I don’t want to bore you too much’ back story in me realising that everyone should be a feminist. And my step into the movement.
The more I educate myself on feminism, the more I get annoyed at my younger self and anyone else that believes in equality, yet refuses to be referred to as a feminist, purely because of it’s girly connotations. I’ve heard (mainly from my white male friends) that ‘feminism doesn’t help men, so why should we identify as one?’ Before I get branded as slightly
very sexist, I should address the fact that I’m not saying every white male is privileged and handed equal opportunities. But you just have to look at the top business CEO’s in the world, as just one example. Need I say no more.
Another great one I frequently hear is ‘but there’s no international mens day’. In which, I must stop you right there, Mr Male (I’m assuming that’s what you identify as, seeing as I’m fairly certain no woman in their right mind would argue this). Quiet clearly, your knowledge on the feminist movement and the day it’s self is limited, to say the least; 19th November, obviously you need to save that date. And living in a patriarchal society, everyday is basically mens day. Feminism is simply about gender equality. There isn’t a sister end game, where all women are secretly out to ruin your lives (can’t speak for the ex that you cheated on though). So chill out. The sooner you realise, and yes I’m looking at you, white male intimidated and uneducated on the feminist movement, that the world just might be a better place when both genders are presented with equal opportunities, equal respect and equal security. Thank you for coming to my TED talk x
“Feminism is not a dirty word. It does not mean you hate men, it does not mean you hate girls that have nice legs and a tan, and it does not mean you are a bitch or a dyke, it means that you believe in equality” – Kate Nash.
Lastly, it only seemed right for me to address some of the most important feminists and women in my life. Whose motivation, success, and kindness continue to inspire me more and more every day. I will be forever grateful to be empowered, up-lifted and supported by such amazing women!
My Mum, of course, the most inspirational woman in my life. My best friend, councillor and motivational speaker all rolled into one.
And of course my 2 best friends. Their successes and attitudes towards the hurdles life throws at them continue to empower me. When women strive for success together, it’s a beautiful thing.
Happy International Women’s Day!
All my love,