2018, the year of that god awful Baby Shark song, Theresa May fucking up the country, and the phrase global warming being shoved in our faces left, right and center (quite rightly so).
However, this post isn’t about the unforgettable year we’ve witnessed in the media; expect to see this soon, but nope, this one is about me, and the lessons I’ve learned throughout the year, let me tell you, there have been a lot – that’s for sure.
January – Everything Is Not What It Seems (sometimes, anyway)
January, without fail the one month of the year we all vow to be better versions of ourselves, this lasts all of about 3 days and we’re back to telling ourselves ‘We’ll start next week’. I don’t really make New Years Resolutions, however this year I told myself that I needed to stop being so naive (lasted about 5 minutes). I’m really good at pretending bad things aren’t happening around the world, or in this case my life. I like to see the best in every situation and person for that matter. The month of January, taught me that people aren’t always as they seem; often you’re intuition is right, if someone seems like they’re no good they probably are.
February – Sometimes You Need To Go Backwards In Order To Move Forward
Something I speak about quite openly, is that I suffer with my mental health. At the start of 2016, I told myself I was going to get better. I told myself the same in 2017 too, and I bet you can guess whats coming next? Yep, the same resolution in 2018. Probs 2019 too. I’m guilty of beating myself up when I have a dip in my mental health, but learning to accept that has been a massive learning curve for me. It’s absolutely fine and completely normal to have bad days; it’s whats shapes us, and essentially moves us forward.
March – Don’t Make Decisions When Your Anxious
I came to the realisation this year, that I make incredibly shit decisions when I’m anxious. For example, I was going through a very rough patch with my anxiety and depression so, decided that dropping out of university was the right option?? Sorry what? Dropping out of a course I love? I was certainly, not okay hun. Needn’t worry, I didn’t, but just to give you an example of why I shouldn’t be allowed to make any decisions when I’m not feeling 100%.
April – Take A Step Back, Stop Stressing
Ask anyone and they’ll tell you I’m a massive stress-head, renowned for making myself ill with worry. In April, I stood back for a moment and assessed what was stressing me out. Most of it turned out to be utterly stupid, and an absolute waste of my time to be worrying about. A lot of things are out of my control anyway, so why spend so much time worrying about them?
May – Comparing Yourself To Others Will Get You Nowhere
I repeat it will get you nowhere. Living in a society where seeing other peoples supposedly ‘perfect‘ lives is only a click away, it’s virtually impossible to not compare your life to someone else’s. I used to spend hours working myself up over the fact I didn’t look like all of these beautiful Instagram models with perfect lives. Once I realised that this was causing me unnecessary worry, I slowly, but surely stopped comparing myself to basically everyone else around me. Social media is an absolutely amazing tool, but it can be so toxic in this day and age; evaluate who you’re choosing to follow and ask yourself whether they are bringing your confidence or happiness down. If the answer is yes, you know what to do.
June – Toxic People? Bin Them.
I did a lot of this. You know what, I’m approximately 139565374 times happier for doing so. Whether it’s a toxic partner, or even friend, if they’re not bringing you anything positive to your life, you have to get rid. It’s very cliche, but life is so bloody short. Fill it with people who will uplift you, support you and help you to be the best version of yourself. It can be hard, don’t get me wrong. Someone could me wrong so many times and I would probably still have it in my heart to forgive them. But having a toxic influence in your life really isn’t brining anything positive to it.
I thought this post would be far too long if I attempted to cram the other 6 months into it. So I’ve saved that for some point next week, I’m not that organised to tell you which day, but keep your eyes peeled and I can assure you it will be up soon!
What are some lessons you’ve learned throughout 2018?!