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8 Life Lessons ‘Friends’ Taught Me

There’s 2 types of Friends lovers, the ones who watch it from time to time and call it one of their favourite shows and the ones who have watched it so many times over they know the plot to every episode and could most likely recite the majority of scenes. I’m the latter. Utterly obsessed, I treat my box set like a gift from god. It has made me laugh and cry, all whilst teaching me some lessons I will take with me through life.

Take Risks 

I think if there is one thing that we learnt from Rachel getting off the plane, it’s that life is short so take risks and live in the moment. Have some balls, if you think something feels wrong, do something to make it right, chances are it’ll work in your favour.

Think Before You Speak 

Some people pride themselves in having verbal diarrhoea but again if theres anything that Rachel taught us, is that this isn’t always a good thing. Remember the scene where she referred to her relationship with Palo as just ‘meaningless animal sex’; yeah, the shit that stirred up between Ross and her should be enough to make anyone remember to think before they speak.

To Not Care What People Think 

We have Phoebe to thank for this one. That time she took up jogging with Rachel…need I say more.

Never Get Drunk With Your Ex 

The trip to Vegas is a prime example here, with Ross and Rachel ending up married, drinking with your ex is never a good idea. Even if you don’t end up married, something will happen, guaranteed.

Never Cheat

There’s 2 types of people in this world, those who think Ross and Rachel were on a break and those who think they weren’t. 100% they weren’t on a break, even if they were I don’t think it was an excuse. Another thing, girls will always find out everything and I mean always – there really is no hiding.

Don’t Be Mean 

The people that bullied Monica throughout school because of her weight, once they came across her in later life they had a shock. Always be nice to people, you never know, they may crop up in later life having grown up well.

Real Love Will Always Find Its Way

Okay but how many relationships did both Ross and Rachel go through during the entirety of Friends all for them to end up always coming back together. If thats not a prime example of what will be will be, I don’t know what is.

Don’t Count To Mississippi 

Lastly, the iconic scene where Ross arrives home from the tanning salon, if it weren’t for this scene we’d all be clueless as to the fact you can’t count to Mississippi in a tanning booth, it won’t end well.

Also, lets not forget the only way to move a sofa? PIVOT.

Han xx

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What Actually Is Anxiety?

A pain in the arse, thats what it is.

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I recently had a panic attack in front of someone who I hadn’t long met; I then had to attempt to explain to them what anxiety is and why I had just burst into an uncontrollable panic in front of them, not the easiest of tasks at the best of times, let alone in the circumstances that I was in. But in doing this I realised that despite mental health being much more widely spoken about, it’s still not a topic that everyone knows much about. It also made me realise how bloody hard it is to explain your mental state to someone without sounding crazy.

The actual definition of an anxiety disorder is “The feeling of unease such as worry or fear, that can be mild or sever”. The NHS compare it to that feeling of unease before an exam or interview, but for people with the disorder, its a constant feeling, that often affects their daily lives. Anxiety is a long term condition and it can often make you forget the last time you felt relaxed or at ease; because as soon as one anxious thought is resolved, another crops up, its a constant cycle – like a said previous a pain in the arse. 

My Dad has been my biggest help when it came to my anxiety and he has always described it to me as that little brother that you can’t get rid of. We compared it to the brother that is constantly doing something to irritate you and what do you do when that happens, well tell them to do one. Unfortunately, you can’t tell anxiety to just, do one, not in the simplest form anyway. The way I look at it, is I can either let it consume me and make my life completely miserable, which I’ve tried and tested and it was god awful. Or I can do something about it, I can tell it to do its worst, make me feel as bas as it possibly can, then prove it completely wrong. Ya know, actually live my life and not let it consume me. I admit, it isn’t always easy and some days I will literally just give up trying with it and sit about feeling sorry for myself, but let me tell you I’ll always feel better if I put up a bit of a fight and prove it wrong, I’m quite argumentative when I need to be, which comes in handy here.

Anxiety is often co-diagnosed with depression, which is how I was diagnosed, I won’t go too into detail about depression because I don’t really like looking too far into that. I’ve always been paranoid, although since being diagnosed with anxiety (which explains the paranoia)  I have learnt so much about myself and my capabilities. I guess in a weird way I have it to thank for making me realise how strong I am (cliche as it sounds), also how good I am at pulling myself out of depressive and anxious states. My anxiety is something that will always be there – there will be times when I barely notice it and I’m on top of the world, but then one trigger and it will be all I can think about. It’s constant ups and downs, realising that when I’m having a really rough couple of weeks, I will come up again, I think that is what has got me through the past couple of years, knowing it wouldn’t always be shit.

Like I said at the start, I have a very black and white way of looking at my mental health, which some people will disagree with, but I either let it consume me and make my life pretty crap or I don’t. I try to always choose the latter, I’ve found some amazing ways to combat my anxiety, which I have spoken about before. I primarily fight my anxiety with running and drawing, both these things let me escape for a while. I once saw a quote that said “running keeps me sane”, I think it was a joke type thing, but I honestly have running to thank for keeping me sane.

And on that note I think I’ll call it a day. Anxiety will always be a part of me, as much to my dismay, but its something that I am learning to control and combat day by day.

 

Han xx